Comments on: The Techno-Loner Generation: Are You Raising a Socially Illiterate Child? http://www.keithferrazzi.com/communication/the-techno-loner-generation-are-you-raising-a-socially-inept-child/ Business is Human. Relationships Power Growth. Sat, 13 Mar 2010 06:12:18 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Lori http://www.keithferrazzi.com/communication/the-techno-loner-generation-are-you-raising-a-socially-inept-child/comment-page-1/#comment-5255 Lori Mon, 04 Jan 2010 23:05:55 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=1072#comment-5255 I saved this article to read when I had time. . .and an example of the "eye contact, non-verbal cues" situation just happened to my son, 16. His older half brother,24, has been texting him nasty things about him not having self-discipline to balance school and Xbox,Facebook etc. These are cyber-bullying and I KNOW that if he was face to face he wouldn't have the guts to talk this way. When people use technology in such negative ways they THEMSELVES can't see how much pain they are causing and this is no way to confront someone or argue. It is just a coward's way of communication, if you can call it that. At the same time, I tried to have my son CALL him to no avail. The rift is there and the more time that lapses the deeper the gap. There are times to use electronic communication and times to speak face to face and not hide behind technology. I saved this article to read when I had time. . .and an example of the "eye contact, non-verbal cues" situation just happened to my son, 16. His older half brother,24, has been texting him nasty things about him not having self-discipline to balance school and Xbox,Facebook etc. These are cyber-bullying and I KNOW that if he was face to face he wouldn't have the guts to talk this way. When people use technology in such negative ways they THEMSELVES can't see how much pain they are causing and this is no way to confront someone or argue. It is just a coward's way of communication, if you can call it that. At the same time, I tried to have my son CALL him to no avail. The rift is there and the more time that lapses the deeper the gap. There are times to use electronic communication and times to speak face to face and not hide behind technology.

]]> By: Matt http://www.keithferrazzi.com/communication/the-techno-loner-generation-are-you-raising-a-socially-inept-child/comment-page-1/#comment-5201 Matt Mon, 28 Dec 2009 05:03:01 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=1072#comment-5201 Both of my daughters (16 and 12) do not have texting plans in our cell phone plan. We've always prided ourselves on being a family who learns how to communicate with each other better face to face or on the phone rather than by email and texting. That's why I believe my children are able to engage with many different generations and groups of people. We have them know and use technology but not become consumed by it. I do agree with Keith's tip regarding no cellphones or blackberry use during family outings. It's one that I wish my brother and his oldest son would institute, yet they don't and I think as a result you can see how socially awkward they are without these devices. For the couple of hours that we may be together during these outings, I think you can devote your full attention to the people there face to face. Keep up the good work Keith, another excellent post. -Matt Both of my daughters (16 and 12) do not have texting plans in our cell phone plan. We've always prided ourselves on being a family who learns how to communicate with each other better face to face or on the phone rather than by email and texting. That's why I believe my children are able to engage with many different generations and groups of people. We have them know and use technology but not become consumed by it.

I do agree with Keith's tip regarding no cellphones or blackberry use during family outings. It's one that I wish my brother and his oldest son would institute, yet they don't and I think as a result you can see how socially awkward they are without these devices. For the couple of hours that we may be together during these outings, I think you can devote your full attention to the people there face to face.

Keep up the good work Keith, another excellent post.

-Matt

]]> By: In Light of the Gospel » Blog Archive » Face to Face Communication for Children http://www.keithferrazzi.com/communication/the-techno-loner-generation-are-you-raising-a-socially-inept-child/comment-page-1/#comment-1124 In Light of the Gospel » Blog Archive » Face to Face Communication for Children Tue, 29 Sep 2009 18:45:46 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=1072#comment-1124 [...] Keith Ferrazi: Are we raising a nation of teenagers who r omg totally gr8 texters, but total dopes when it comes to managing face to face communication? [...] [...] Keith Ferrazi: Are we raising a nation of teenagers who r omg totally gr8 texters, but total dopes when it comes to managing face to face communication? [...]

]]> By: stephanie allen http://www.keithferrazzi.com/communication/the-techno-loner-generation-are-you-raising-a-socially-inept-child/comment-page-1/#comment-1105 stephanie allen Thu, 17 Sep 2009 18:23:00 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=1072#comment-1105 Setting the table is the easy part, how to find time to shop for groceries, cut or prep the food, make the food and cook the dinner is the hard part of dinner time. At Dream Dinners the make it easy to put a home cooked dinner, you make yourself on your dinner table. Check out DreamDinners.com. Setting the table is the easy part, how to find time to shop for groceries, cut or prep the food, make the food and cook the dinner is the hard part of dinner time.

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]]> By: Kupe http://www.keithferrazzi.com/communication/the-techno-loner-generation-are-you-raising-a-socially-inept-child/comment-page-1/#comment-1121 Kupe Wed, 16 Sep 2009 12:49:02 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=1072#comment-1121 Hey everyone, Great post Keith and great comments. My kids are not of the age to have cell phones or access to IM, Twitter, Facebook, etc. When the time comes I will want them introduced to that medium, but staying well versed in the face to face interaction. We encourage story telling, both non-fiction (how was your day) and fiction (using that imagination. My wife and I have been telling stories since they were young and now even my 2 year old is telling elobarote stories to us. -Kupe Hey everyone,

Great post Keith and great comments. My kids are not of the age to have cell phones or access to IM, Twitter, Facebook, etc. When the time comes I will want them introduced to that medium, but staying well versed in the face to face interaction. We encourage story telling, both non-fiction (how was your day) and fiction (using that imagination. My wife and I have been telling stories since they were young and now even my 2 year old is telling elobarote stories to us.

-Kupe

]]> By: Martha http://www.keithferrazzi.com/communication/the-techno-loner-generation-are-you-raising-a-socially-inept-child/comment-page-1/#comment-1120 Martha Tue, 15 Sep 2009 20:31:53 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=1072#comment-1120 As a 20 something who grew up as this technology was taking off, and has more or less rode the wave - I think you're absolutely right, Keith. It's vital to learn and develop personal communication skills even while often seems more important to learn proper etiquette for the latest social media site. In large part, it was my parents hosting get-togethers at our house that helped me develop the skills I need more than anything else. On the strengths of my generation: we usually know and follow proper etiquette for the new media. It's amazing how many times I've had co-workers talking about someone in the office, often older, who comes off as rude or angry in their emails because they're short and choppy. Or I've noticed that many people on twitter, often politicians or community leaders, 'misuse' the service, posting information that is irrelevant to the community. You often talk about networks of thousands of people - by using digital communication well, my generation is connecting in meaningful ways to an astonishing number of people around the world - and creating relationships that spill into the 'real' world. And Catherine, I'm hoping Glee Club was a reference to the new show, Glee - very fun, and worth a watch :) As a 20 something who grew up as this technology was taking off, and has more or less rode the wave - I think you're absolutely right, Keith. It's vital to learn and develop personal communication skills even while often seems more important to learn proper etiquette for the latest social media site. In large part, it was my parents hosting get-togethers at our house that helped me develop the skills I need more than anything else.

On the strengths of my generation: we usually know and follow proper etiquette for the new media. It's amazing how many times I've had co-workers talking about someone in the office, often older, who comes off as rude or angry in their emails because they're short and choppy. Or I've noticed that many people on twitter, often politicians or community leaders, 'misuse' the service, posting information that is irrelevant to the community. You often talk about networks of thousands of people - by using digital communication well, my generation is connecting in meaningful ways to an astonishing number of people around the world - and creating relationships that spill into the 'real' world.

And Catherine, I'm hoping Glee Club was a reference to the new show, Glee - very fun, and worth a watch :)

]]> By: Social Networking and Camp « Camp Kern’s Blog Nation http://www.keithferrazzi.com/communication/the-techno-loner-generation-are-you-raising-a-socially-inept-child/comment-page-1/#comment-1119 Social Networking and Camp « Camp Kern’s Blog Nation Mon, 14 Sep 2009 18:25:10 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=1072#comment-1119 [...] Here is a great article talking about what you can do as a parent to make sure your child doesn’t grow up to be a member of the “Techno-Loner Generation.”  We’re here to help in the process, and we’ve got a ton of ideas and activities that perfectly fit the “things they miss out on while glued to the PC” model.  Campfires, S’mores, Dutch Auctions, Cabin Time, Kern Zone, GaGa, there’s so much going on, it’s hard to avoid a ton of personal, valuable face-to-face interaction. [...] [...] Here is a great article talking about what you can do as a parent to make sure your child doesn’t grow up to be a member of the “Techno-Loner Generation.”  We’re here to help in the process, and we’ve got a ton of ideas and activities that perfectly fit the “things they miss out on while glued to the PC” model.  Campfires, S’mores, Dutch Auctions, Cabin Time, Kern Zone, GaGa, there’s so much going on, it’s hard to avoid a ton of personal, valuable face-to-face interaction. [...]

]]> By: Gerard Tannam http://www.keithferrazzi.com/communication/the-techno-loner-generation-are-you-raising-a-socially-inept-child/comment-page-1/#comment-1108 Gerard Tannam Sat, 12 Sep 2009 06:57:41 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=1072#comment-1108 Great piece, Keith; we encourage our children to tell us stories about their day as much as possible and always make room for it (with few exceptions, I'll drop whatever I'm doing if they have something to tell me). As you also suggest, we toast each other's successes both formally and informally whenever we can too. It seems to be working; we find our kids (14, 12 & 11) continue to volunteer what they've been up to and their friends' parents report our three to be very lively company. Great piece, Keith; we encourage our children to tell us stories about their day as much as possible and always make room for it (with few exceptions, I'll drop whatever I'm doing if they have something to tell me). As you also suggest, we toast each other's successes both formally and informally whenever we can too. It seems to be working; we find our kids (14, 12 & 11) continue to volunteer what they've been up to and their friends' parents report our three to be very lively company.

]]> By: T Langemo http://www.keithferrazzi.com/communication/the-techno-loner-generation-are-you-raising-a-socially-inept-child/comment-page-1/#comment-1109 T Langemo Fri, 11 Sep 2009 19:07:48 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=1072#comment-1109 Great topic, Keith! I have three kids - none of whom are at an age to use cell phones, yet. My wife and I are adamant that our kids won't have cell phones or social media access until they are in their teens - and they will be closely monitored (knowing that teens can get by with a lot...at least I did...and I didn't need a cell phone to do it). By the time our kids have cell phones and Facebook accounts, they won't be such shiny new toys and we'll have learned (hopefully) more about how to manage, monitor, and educate them to use it safely and effectively. Maybe its wishful thinking? But you make a great point - if parents don't learn about the technology and how to use it, how can they be effective teachers of balancing the face-to-face with the social media venues? Great topic, Keith! I have three kids - none of whom are at an age to use cell phones, yet. My wife and I are adamant that our kids won't have cell phones or social media access until they are in their teens - and they will be closely monitored (knowing that teens can get by with a lot...at least I did...and I didn't need a cell phone to do it). By the time our kids have cell phones and Facebook accounts, they won't be such shiny new toys and we'll have learned (hopefully) more about how to manage, monitor, and educate them to use it safely and effectively. Maybe its wishful thinking? But you make a great point - if parents don't learn about the technology and how to use it, how can they be effective teachers of balancing the face-to-face with the social media venues?

]]> By: Is Your Kid a Texting Addict? | The Technician Shop http://www.keithferrazzi.com/communication/the-techno-loner-generation-are-you-raising-a-socially-inept-child/comment-page-1/#comment-1123 Is Your Kid a Texting Addict? | The Technician Shop Fri, 11 Sep 2009 11:11:05 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=1072#comment-1123 [...] Ferrazzi, an expert on business relationships, comments on an article written by Mark Bauerlein, an English professor at Emory University. The title of [...] [...] Ferrazzi, an expert on business relationships, comments on an article written by Mark Bauerlein, an English professor at Emory University. The title of [...]

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