Three Ways to Become More Successful, Today
Today's guest blog is from Kim Ann Curtin, a NYC-based business and life coach whom I've had the pleasure of knowing for over a year, ever since I heard about her giving out free hugs on Columbus Circle. I reached out immediately. I was even more impressed when I heard that she had taken to Wall Street to donate coaching to the financial sector during the worst stretch of the crisis. In this post, she delivers some great insight on one of my favorite topics: How we hold ourselves back. And now, here's Kim:
Three Ways to Become More Successful, Today
By Kim Ann Curtin, CPCC, ACC
As a life and business coach, I see people limit their potential with fear of failure, limiting beliefs, and lack of perspective. Recognizing those feelings, bringing them out of the shadow and into the light, is the first step in creating a new paradigm for yourself. We need to learn how to “be" with them and forgive ourselves for having them. Once you’re there, creating new belief systems help us to rid ourselves of the old. Below are three behaviors that those that are living the life they want to really live practice regularly. They are at the top of my “Three Ways to Become More Successful” list.
• Be Willing to Strike Out And that means publicly. Have you ever seen a batter be so overly cautious that he doesn’t even swing? The only way to get a home run is to take a crack. Yes, striking out is embarrassing, but you are here to take that risk. My friend James really wanted to see the last Yankees game played at the old stadium and in spite of not having a ticket he flew in from Cali, stood outside the stadium and held a sign that said, “I need a miracle!” Without his willingness to fail, be ignored and not see the game, he never would have found himself standing behind home plate watching all the greats legends of baseball celebrated. And he got that ticket for 100 bucks!
• Don’t Be Stopped By No Sounds simple but this is where most people drop the ball. Do you get scared when you hear no? We learn at an early age that if we don’t heed the word, we experience unpleasant consequences. It’s time to re-wire that belief system. You are the authority of your life. You’re the one who says “no” or “yes.” So don’t get shut down by someone else’s red light. There’s always someone else to ask or another time to re-ask the same person. Keep asking until you get your yes - you only need one.
• Be “Over There” Focus your attention “over there,” on the other person’s needs and experience. It will set you apart from every one else. Years ago when I was a TV producer for a non-profit cable show I was asked to try and get an “impossible” interview with the much sought after then-editor of the Daily News, Pete Hamill. His first book out since his best seller, A Drinking Life, had just been released and every talk show wanted him. We had stiff competition and no budget to even send him a car. When I called his office his assistant put me on hold at least five times! I could hear her overwhelm. I put my focus “over there” so instead of telling her what I needed when she finally could talk, I asked, “Are you having a rough day?” After 10 minutes of me patiently listening to her vent, she put my interview at the top of her request list, above Good Morning America and The Today Show. Two weeks later we were taping the “impossible” interview.
We are the creators of our own success. Usually anytime you’re “stuck” it’s because you are lost in a perspective. Walk around it, get on top of it, and burrow below it. The solution lies in a different mindset than the one you have now. It’s up to you – with some help of trusted others – to create it!
Kim Ann Curtin, CPCC, ACC, is The Wall Street Coach. She coaches individuals and corporate teams from Wall Street to Main Street who want solutions and clarity.
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