Comments on: Don’t Be a Networking Jerk – Six Rules for True Connections http://www.keithferrazzi.com/business-networking/don%e2%80%99t-be-a-networking-jerk-%e2%80%93-six-rules-for-true-connections/ Business is Human. Relationships Power Growth. Thu, 11 Mar 2010 21:17:34 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Nicky Kee http://www.keithferrazzi.com/business-networking/don%e2%80%99t-be-a-networking-jerk-%e2%80%93-six-rules-for-true-connections/comment-page-1/#comment-940 Nicky Kee Mon, 21 Sep 2009 18:32:28 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=965#comment-940 Kudos, good post. Every sane human being should read this post. Kudos, good post. Every sane human being should read this post.

]]> By: Karen Watts http://www.keithferrazzi.com/business-networking/don%e2%80%99t-be-a-networking-jerk-%e2%80%93-six-rules-for-true-connections/comment-page-1/#comment-941 Karen Watts Wed, 26 Aug 2009 19:32:56 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=965#comment-941 Love your writing. It's nice to see someone focus on the "how to" and skip the part where they show off all the words they learned in business school. There is so much more to networking than exchanging business cards and sizing people up for what they can do for you. Every time I teach this in workshops I am amazed at how it still seems "new" to lots of people. Love your writing. It's nice to see someone focus on the "how to" and skip the part where they show off all the words they learned in business school. There is so much more to networking than exchanging business cards and sizing people up for what they can do for you. Every time I teach this in workshops I am amazed at how it still seems "new" to lots of people.

]]> By: jay hofmeister http://www.keithferrazzi.com/business-networking/don%e2%80%99t-be-a-networking-jerk-%e2%80%93-six-rules-for-true-connections/comment-page-1/#comment-939 jay hofmeister Tue, 25 Aug 2009 15:37:16 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=965#comment-939 these are great tips, my question is what is the recommended time frame to keep in touch with somebody without becoming a pest? thanks Jay these are great tips, my question is what is the recommended time frame to keep in touch with somebody without becoming a pest?

thanks

Jay

]]> By: Chris Capozzi http://www.keithferrazzi.com/business-networking/don%e2%80%99t-be-a-networking-jerk-%e2%80%93-six-rules-for-true-connections/comment-page-1/#comment-936 Chris Capozzi Mon, 24 Aug 2009 21:00:17 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=965#comment-936 I think all to often "health, wealth and children" are the brunt of small talk as individuals do not understand how to connect with someone and instead head down the wrong path. Using what is normally a small talk topic and turning it into a deep conversation that you care about is an art. People want to talk about their kids so show an interest not the top level stuff but ask about the kids education or athletics and share insight on a tip or something you can do to help. Don't think that you have to have this deep connection for the moment you look at a person but have a deep concern for what is important to them. If we show we care about the person and what is important to them you will in the end get what's important to you but if you turn that around all you will get is boredom becuase you don't care. I think all to often "health, wealth and children" are the brunt of small talk as individuals do not understand how to connect with someone and instead head down the wrong path. Using what is normally a small talk topic and turning it into a deep conversation that you care about is an art. People want to talk about their kids so show an interest not the top level stuff but ask about the kids education or athletics and share insight on a tip or something you can do to help. Don't think that you have to have this deep connection for the moment you look at a person but have a deep concern for what is important to them. If we show we care about the person and what is important to them you will in the end get what's important to you but if you turn that around all you will get is boredom becuase you don't care.

]]> By: keithferrazzi http://www.keithferrazzi.com/business-networking/don%e2%80%99t-be-a-networking-jerk-%e2%80%93-six-rules-for-true-connections/comment-page-1/#comment-938 keithferrazzi Mon, 24 Aug 2009 20:35:11 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=965#comment-938 Scott, you're not alone with that trouble. But my guess is that science and technology are of interest to more people than you think - maybe you just need to "predigest" your science news. Connect to the person and spin the content out from there. Like a journalist, you need the right angle to get people interested. Also never forget, "Health, wealth, and children." These are fine subjects to connect with anybody. When you make a real internal choice to care about the people you meet, it's much harder to be bored. Make it a personal challenge to find that place where you can connect with a stranger, and the conversation will take on new life. Scott, you're not alone with that trouble. But my guess is that science and technology are of interest to more people than you think - maybe you just need to "predigest" your science news. Connect to the person and spin the content out from there. Like a journalist, you need the right angle to get people interested.

Also never forget, "Health, wealth, and children." These are fine subjects to connect with anybody.

When you make a real internal choice to care about the people you meet, it's much harder to be bored. Make it a personal challenge to find that place where you can connect with a stranger, and the conversation will take on new life.

]]> By: Scott M http://www.keithferrazzi.com/business-networking/don%e2%80%99t-be-a-networking-jerk-%e2%80%93-six-rules-for-true-connections/comment-page-1/#comment-937 Scott M Mon, 24 Aug 2009 15:53:07 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=965#comment-937 What do you do if you find it difficult to have "meaningful dialogues"? The majority of things that people make small-talk about bore me. I'm not interested in the same TV shows, music, movies, or popular news stories as most other people. And the things I find interesting make people's eyes glaze over too (science, technology, etc). What do you do if you find it difficult to have "meaningful dialogues"? The majority of things that people make small-talk about bore me. I'm not interested in the same TV shows, music, movies, or popular news stories as most other people. And the things I find interesting make people's eyes glaze over too (science, technology, etc).

]]> By: Linda Kaplan Thaler http://www.keithferrazzi.com/business-networking/don%e2%80%99t-be-a-networking-jerk-%e2%80%93-six-rules-for-true-connections/comment-page-1/#comment-935 Linda Kaplan Thaler Mon, 24 Aug 2009 15:09:45 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=965#comment-935 Keith- wonderful post! Your point "Reaching out to others is not a numbers game. Your goal is to make genuine connections with people you can count on," could not be more timely given today's tough job market. Earlier this summer, Robin and I tackled the subject on our blog as well (http://bit.ly/bJyf8) and I'd like to add one more tip: Lose the monologue and start asking questions. Time and time again, we've found that "curiosity kills the competition" and helps to instantly form connections. After all, there's nothing more seductive that a person who finds you utterly fascinating. Keith- wonderful post! Your point "Reaching out to others is not a numbers game. Your goal is to make genuine connections with people you can count on," could not be more timely given today's tough job market. Earlier this summer, Robin and I tackled the subject on our blog as well (http://bit.ly/bJyf8) and I'd like to add one more tip: Lose the monologue and start asking questions. Time and time again, we've found that "curiosity kills the competition" and helps to instantly form connections. After all, there's nothing more seductive that a person who finds you utterly fascinating.

]]> By: Sam Diener http://www.keithferrazzi.com/business-networking/don%e2%80%99t-be-a-networking-jerk-%e2%80%93-six-rules-for-true-connections/comment-page-1/#comment-934 Sam Diener Mon, 24 Aug 2009 15:04:52 +0000 http://www.keithferrazzi.com/blog/?p=965#comment-934 Great thoughts Kieth. I look forward to reading more. Sam Diener Great thoughts Kieth. I look forward to reading more.

Sam Diener

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